1. Don’t be the slowest player
In my casual games, in the UK we got around in four hours – but the Greens and Tees were closer. Evaluate your pace of play honestly and often, and if you’re consistently the slowest one in your group, you’re a slow player, period. Encourage everyone to move quickly enough so you find yourself right behind the group in front several times, both early and late in the round. Play “ready golf” (hit when ready, even if you aren’t away) until you reach the green, be prepared to play when it’s your turn on the tee and green, and never search for a lost ball for more than five minutes.
2. Keep your temper under control
Throwing clubs, sulking and shouting profanities makes everyone uneasy. We all have our moments of frustration, but the trick is to vent in an inoffensive way. For example, I often follow a bad hole by hitting the next tee shot a little harder — for better or worse.
3. Respect other people’s time
Because time is our most valuable commodity, there are few good reasons for breaking a golf date. Deciding at last-minute to clean the car or getting a call that the dentist can move up your appointment by a day, just doesn’t cut it. Always make your tee times, and show up for your lesson with the pro a little early. Social functions are no exception.
4. Repair the ground you play on
One of those two-pronged devices is fine for repairing pitch marks and know how to do it correctly. As for divots, replace them or use the seed mix if packed on the side of your buggy. Rake bunkers like you mean it. Ever notice that the worse the bunker shot, the poorer the job a guy does raking the sand? Make the area nice and smooth — don’t leave deep furrows from the rake. Before you exit the bunker, ask yourself. Would I be upset if I had to play from that spot?
5. Be a silent partner
I have noticed players making practice swings in another player’s field of vision as I was getting ready to hit a shot. I stopped, and reminded him it was my turn to play. The point is, stand still from the time a player sets himself until the ball has left the club. Even with the advent of spikeless shoes, the etiquette rule of never walking in someone’s line of play on the putting green is an absolute. The area around the hole in particular is sacred ground. The first thing to note when you walk onto a green is the location of every ball in your group, then steer clear of their lines to the hole. Know where to stand and when to keep quiet. Position yourself directly across or at a diagonal from a player setting up. Never stand on the line of play, either beyond the hole or directly behind the ball. When a player is about to hit a shot, think of the fairway as a cathedral and, the green as a library.
6. Make your golf cart ‘invisible’
Buggies are very much a part of the modern game. Think about it: They’re mentioned on the backs of scorecards, discussed in the Decisions on the Rules of Golf, bags and other items are designed specifically for them, and they’re used at most courses. The sheer popularity of them makes buggy etiquette vitally important. Your aim when driving a buggy should be to leave no trace you were there. Because we tend to look where we’re going and not where we’ve been, it’s easy to damage the turf and not realise it. Avoid wet areas and spots that are getting beaten up from traffic. Golfers tend to play “follow the leader” and drive in single file out to the fairway before branching off. It’s usually better to “scatter” — everyone take a different route — so buggy traffic is spread out. Do not leave at the entrance to the green – Leave it at the exit.
7. Always look your best
The best players in the world have been meticulous about their appearance. Their clothing has been sharp, and not one of them has shown up on the first tee with his cap backward, mud caked on his shoes, or his shirt-tail hanging out. Your appearance speaks volumes about you as a person, and the neatly appointed golfer, like a businessman, gives the impression he thinks the golf course and the people there are special
8. Turn off the mobile phone
I know enough to recognise a phone when it rings in my backswing. If I had my way, mobile phones would be turned off at all times on the course, but most clubs have given in to the fact that people are going to use them. I don’t know all the gadgets and settings on those phones, but do whatever you have to do to keep it quiet. And if you absolutely have to make a call, move away from the other players. And keep the call so brief that they don’t even know you made it.
9. Lend a hand when you can
It’s easy to help out your fellow players, if you just pay attention. One obvious way is looking for lost balls — better yet, watching errant shots so they don’t turn into lost balls. Pick up that extra club left on the fringe or the head cover dropped next to the tee, and return it to its owner after saying, “Nice shot!” And if you see a buggy out of position or a provisional ball that needs picking up, don’t just walk by.
10. Learn the little things
There are a hundred bits of etiquette I haven’t mentioned, like laying the flagstick down carefully, tamping down spike marks when you’re walking OFF a green, letting faster groups play through, and so on. All of these things are learned by observing, with a sharp eye and a considerate heart.
Just know that golf has a way of returning favours, and every piece of etiquette you practice will be repaid tenfold.