If someone who left their doors or windows open and was burgled, we would instantly say that it served them right. Our attitude would be that people should not openly invite a crime. Similarly, we advise our children about stranger danger – warning them not to talk to strangers or allow themselves to be a target. So why is it that when a girl who has her skirt up to her backside; her boobs hanging out; and roaring drunk and out at 4am in a dark street, try to pretend that her behaviour would not provoke some male idiot to perhaps rape her? People shouldn’t “invite” a burglary and nor should a girl be stupid enough to invite a sexual crime. Of course rape is outrageous, but things can be done to stop predators from taking advantage, and that’s why I applaud Pretenders singer Chrissie Hynde who put her head way above the parapet and said, in effect, that girls and women should not do things to actively court a sexual reaction. She remembered that when she was 21 and out of her head on sedatives, wearing just bra and panties at a Hell’s Angels party, she was forced to perform various sex acts. She said: “If I’m being lairy and putting it about and being provocative, then you are enticing someone who’s already unhinged. If you’re wearing something that says “come on and sc–w me” you’d better be good on your feet.” Good for Chrissie who has the courage to say it as it is, as loads of groups threw up their hands in horror at her comments, which seemed perfectly sensible to me. Sadly there are many young women in the UK who think they can be as “lairy” and provocative as they like leading to sexual abusers and morons to take advantage of them.
Tipping has been in the news in the UK recently, with Pizza Express in the spotlight for denying staff eight percent of the amount given by customers on credit cards, saying that was an administration charge. It tried to defend its “greed”, but when the affair went viral on social media and customers started to vote with their feet, surprise, surprise, the company conceded and announced that it would give staff the full amount given in tips. But has this whole tipping nonsense gone completely out of hand? We went to an Indian restaurant last week with friends and had an extremely mediocre buffet. All the staff had to do was to bring drinks to our table and clear away the empties, but when we paid our bill there they were suggesting we should add a tip on the credit card. Utter nonsense.
It’s the same at Toby Carveries. We queue up and have meat put on our plate, serve ourselves all the veg and gravy and take it to the table. Why on earth should we tip staff for doing practically nothing?
We’re soon to be moving to a new era of employers paying a “living wage”, and that being so, do we have to have tipping at all? Isn’t it about time that restaurants, hairdressers, nail technicians, masseurs, drivers on coach trips, taxi drivers, et al, just charged a proper rate for the service and stopped looking for tips? I hate tipping culture – why should I tip for a service which should be given anyway? If the service was not provided satisfactorily we just shouldn’t pay the bill. The whole rigmarole of tipping came about when toffs gave the very poor servant a farthing or halfpenny to relieve a conscience. It’s now got totally out of hand and should be stopped.
There’s a parliamentary vote this week on whether assisted suicide should be allowed in Britain, and I hope gets passed as I am totally against religious leaders sticking their oars in, lining up to oppose the bill. The public responded to on-line news stories in newspapers and TV in their droves, the vast majority in support of allowing help to the terminally ill and those in intolerable pain to die if it is their wish – albeit with safeguards. Here are a few of the most ‘liked’ comments.
“Whether for or against this, the one thing we must never ever do is allow the opinions of the religionists to sway us.”
“Sensible reasoned debate must decide the outcome, not mindless belief.”
“So the law trusts two doctors to decide on the fate of an unborn child, yet will not allow them to collectively decide with a patient’s consent to assist them in a dignified death!”
“I, like many others, have seen at first-hand, loved ones fight a losing battle with a life-limiting illness when a peaceful and dignified release from their pain and suffering would have served them far better!”
“Forcing a terminal ill human being who is in excruciating pain is nothing but torture. Are we such a cruel race to inflict such suffering?”
“I don’t tell this bloke (Archbishop of Canterbury) not to practice religion so what right has he to interfere with my decision how to end it when my time comes. He should stick to preaching and keep out of politics.”
And these were the two most disliked comments…
“Suicide is wrong regardless, we are all spiritual creatures and it’s the spiritual that matters and NOT the physical.”
“No one chooses to be born. Everyone should have the right to a pain-free death when-ever they choose” wrong on both counts. We all choose our race, colour, creed and gender before coming to Earth.”
Regular readers of my column know how I think the world has gone utterly mad, and here’s another example. Apparently there’s a miracle vibrating bra soon to hit the market which can permanently increase breasts by one cup size. Guess where it’s coming from? America, of course! On one level it might stop some women from going under the knife to have silicon implanted into breasts for cosmetic reasons, spending a fortune in the process. But on another level, just what damage are vibrating boobs going to do long term? Could it bring about the development of a cancer some years later? Why can’t people just be content with what they were born with?